THE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE
After the exam just now, I had my dinner with my friend and casual discussion became interesting as the topic of marriage and love came barging in. Many interesting things were discussed and there is one specific point I want to highlight about here.
Now before anything, talking about marriage doesn't necessarily mean we are "menggatal". Accept it or not, it has become an integral part of some people life and it will become an integral part of some others. Therefore, as long as the discussion is maintained moderate and not too excessive, I believe it will be beneficial and useful for those who are married and those who are going to be married.
When we are married to someone, their families become our families. Their brothers and sisters become our brothers and sisters. Their father and mother become our father and mother. Their house becomes our house. Why then put a barrier between them and us? Why put a double standard on in-laws because they are connected to us only by the bond of marriage?
Marriage is not all about your husband or your wife alone/
"As long as I fulfilled my obligations to my husband, I am going to be fine."
"As long as I provide for my wife and kids, things are already perfect."
No, that is not sufficient. Marriage is greater than that especially in our society that has created stereotype about the fact that mother and daughter in law relationship is always cold. I regard this stereotype as complete nonsense and needs to be thrown away. In marriage, family ties, paying respect and honor for in-laws, fulfilling responsibilities to one's own family, understanding spouse's difficulties and feelings, proper upbringing of children, treating the house of in-laws like your own house, treating your mother in law like your own mother etc etc, these are some of the most important pillars of marriage.
THE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE
If we put this barrier between ourselves and our in-laws for the petty reasons of them not being our own flesh and blood, then trust me, there is still a big pillar not raised in your marriage. The house is still not completely constructed. Learn to respect them the way you respect your family. Learn to care for them the way you care for your family. Before looking at our husbands/wives or our family in-law, look at ourselves first, have we been doing things right with our in laws today?
Kinda funny for someone who is not married to speak about marriage, but hey, this is just a sharing of opinion. May Allah SWT make those married couples people who respect their in-laws. May He make those unmarried couples people that will respect their in laws too when they are married. Ameen.
Credit to: Tajudin Ismail
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